the air of elsewhere
All addicts, regardless of the substance or their social status share a consistent and obvious symptom; they’re not quite present when you talk to them. They communicate to you through a barely discernible but un-ignorable veil. Whether a homeless smack head troubling you for 50p for a cup of tea or a coked-up, pinstriped exec foaming off about his “speedboat” there is a toxic aura that prevents connection. They have about them the air of elsewhere, that they’re looking through you to somewhere else they’d rather be.
It is impossible to intervene.
— Russell Brand on Amy Winehouse
mr russell brand should know better. it is possible to intervene. just do the same “substance” as the addict and you are connected, or under the same “veil”.
Andrukai, there’s a big difference between deluding yourself and connection. If two people are deluded, there may be an illusion of connection, but they are farther apart than ever possible, which will be searingly understood when the high drops. I could go on, but that’s the bottom line. An addict is an escapist. He can choose to stay (seek intervention), but he can’t be brought back unless he wants to be back and face the pain of life. And that’s something only he can decide. Chasing an addict by deluding yourself as well? That’s not connection. It’s stupidity.
you are right, it is impossible to intervene :D my lack of ability to comprehend english sometimes astounds me :D but as far as connecting goes, i’ve connected to people while sober and while high, that is definitely not the essential part that prevents or enhances connecting ;) and speaking of delusion this popped to my mind http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s15e08-ass-burgers
There’s a difference between connecting to a person who uses occasionally and trying to connect to an addict. There is a difference between the recreational use of substances and addiction to substances–though the line is fine enough I personally would not walk it. Addiction, furthermore, does not have to be to a substance to be destructive.
Need I go on?
yeah, only one thing, how do i get rid of one if i don’t want to? :D fine line? walked it…my personal experience is really teacher enough…and yeah, substance doesn’t have to be destructive to get you addicted also ;)
If you don’t want to, why are you asking?
Though what you said is also true, read again: I said “it doesn’t have to be a substance to to be destructive” (e.g. gambling, bad relationships). Though what you said is true, too (e.g. yoga, exercise, food).
And that said, your written English is better than many people who have lived here all or most of their lives. I did well.
(Okay, fine. You were fluent before you met me. At least I taught your sister how to say, “Puddle.”)
xo
reminds me of your comment, “how do you miss someone who was never really there?” classic.